“These women have become dear friends which I never expected and am so very grateful to have this as the ongoing outcome of what was truly a fabulous experience. The memories will live on, but more importantly the friends I made are now a critical piece of the fabric of my life.”
– MaryAnn Guerra, CEO – BioAccel
Wisdom Quests are travel masterminds that allow removal from day-to-day responsibilities to focus on yourself and your personal growth. Unlike anything most people have experienced, a Wisdom Quest opens doors you not only didn’t know were closed, but probably didn’t even know were present in your life.
We invite you to explore the world and yourself on our next Wisdom Quest in Portugal, September 17-21, 2019.
What are the stories defining you today?
Who is in the driver’s seat of the story—or stories—you are living right now?
As women, how often do we find ourselves trying to get in the driver’s seat of our story?
September 17-21, 2019, join us in on intimate, deeply reflective Wisdom Quest in the wine country of Portugal to uncover your “real” story—the essence that makes you unique.
We are not talking about the story you may have lived thus far based on your life experiences. Nor are we talking about other people’s stories of you that you may have tried to live up to… Just the contrary!
All this takes place in our own private villa on a wine estate in the Douro Valley!
Your Wisdom Quest includes:
When I find myself feeling stretched too thin, I realize I am not in the driver’s seat of my story. More often than not, I am trying to fit into other people’s stories and make their story work for me.
Not long ago, I was working with a senior executive who was filled with angst about having a difficult conversation with one of his direct reports. As part of my work to help transform the culture of this organization, I had encouraged his direct report to “clean up” the relationship with him, as it had gone off course. The senior executive was livid with me. He was not looking to fix the relationship and by putting him in the difficult position of having to meet with his subordinate, he was looking to make it my fault.
When I first received the angry email, I could feel my heart rate accelerate, and I immediately let his story take over what I was doing at the time. I knew I was in his story because I felt emotionally hijacked, worried about his anger and had an immediate need to “fix the problem” that I had apparently created.
And then, I took a breath and said to myself, “No.” Buying into his angst only perpetuates a story that is not helping him, his employee or the organization. I chose a different story. I chose a story aligned with my values and belief in him as a leader.
When we met, I led with my story. We discussed leadership, his leadership and how to develop this employee. Two days later, I heard from both the senior leader and the employee. Their conversation went great and both were very happy. The senior executive transformed from wanting to fire the employee to saying there is no greater satisfaction than helping someone grow as a person.
The moral of the story: Changing my story also changed his.
Leaders own the narrative. If you are ever in the position of having to defend, justify or explain yourself, it means someone else is telling your story.